Extreme mindsets and dedication

How extreme is that really and what are you currently actually doing?

Ever found yourself wondering in what other universe you might have done that thing? You know, that thing which you’d always wanted to do, the thing you dreamed of trying out, that one important thing which you even had about a gazillion chances to pursue, but yet chose not to? Don’t bullshit, you know exactly what it’s about. Now, how come this happens and is there any easy, one-step way out of it?

 

The asshole called excuse and what to do about it

remember the story about the kangaroo who checked out tigers and wanted to be as fast as they? And then practiced, practiced and practiced some more, only to end up eaten up as he tried to compete with an actual tiger?

Don’t remember that story? That might have something to do with the fact that we just made it up.

Although, the point still stands solid. Going against the universe isn’t going to make anything good come out of the effort. The result’s just another level of insanity, with potential life threatening conditions as a consequence.

Imagine being human and wanting to fly (pre-airplane times) like the birds. So instead of figuring out some sort of device which could help you in that respect, you just climb onto a big ass mountain and then jump.

Things won’t work out that well. Because you’re not a bird. You know.

Note this though: going against that very universe is not the same thing as pursuing your dreams. At least, it doesn’t have to be. Solid excuses will always hold your back in times of decision making, yet most often it’s not about not being able to do something due to the laws of nature.

Mostly, it’s due to the laws of fear.

 

That asshole called comfort zone and how to deal with it

Now, as fear approaches, which it tends to do in any sort of real and/or imaginary situation of change – things may get really, badly fucked up. How so? Instead of realizing that your wants and needs and dreams is a part of you, utilizing them constructively and going for something amazing, you back off.

Like a little chicken.

Here’s where creativity takes over – the amount of excuses referring you right back to some safe spot of safety, as opposed to the new potential deadly, mad dangerous situation, is to damn high.

You’ve got all of this comfort here, and who knows what waits for you right over there? You know, the place where you happen to end up once you get off of your butt and start working for yourself.

“I know where I’m going and I know the truth, and I don’t have to be what you want me to be. I’m free to be what I want.”

– Muhammad Ali

What’s even more amazing is that your comfort zone will be supported by many of your closest friends and family, even parts of society that also got themselves a nice little fantasy world to back up.

Since they all support each other to legitimize their own (continued) existence, you’re in deep shit as you decide to try to get out of there. Your mindset will be seen as extreme, your dedication will be seen as madness and your energy levels will most likely be secretly admired.

Why? Because if your fantasy bubble bursts, so do their ones and then they’ve got to get on with life for real. Which is scary.

 

The stories and reality – Determination and extreme mindsets in the wrong place

So, what happens next? You make up these stories, these whole plots and narratives carefully describing why any other move but those that you’ve been dealing with since way back, is going to ruin you.

But that’s not all.

You also create these stories on how you’d like the universe to behave, how you’d see yourself if only this and if only that. If that guy wasn’t the boss of this company, then I’d be the boss. I’d do this differently and make some serious world peace happen, if only those assholes running countries now didn’t do it.

“Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.”

– Dale Carnegie

I’d be rich and famous if I did criminal things like those other guys I see on TV, who’ve definitely done some weird shit to get where they’re at.

I could write a book if only. I would read that book if only. My life would be so nice and people would notice me if only. I could have this nice relationship if only that other person would listen to me at all times and see how right I am.

And the list goes on ad nauseaum.

What is all of that?

Yet another nice bunch of excuses, of false truths rambled like a mantra, until at least you yourself start believing in them. Even that is a bad plan, since none of these BS concepts involve any form of happiness in any way, shape or form.

Simply put: even if one of these things magically happen, you’ll end up in a unhappy space, still not getting any happiness but totally knowing why that is. Totally. Because of those other people, the world being fucked up, your horoscope, the eggs you had for breakfast etc. etc.

Good guy universe – How going for something might be in your favor

There’s this guy called Peter Sage – he’s a well-known entrepreneur and very skilled at speaking about his experience in life. This experience includes all things but excuses, all things seeking to try out what’s going to happen if you only go for what you want in life. In his interview at London Real https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hhjEavg27jc , he speaks about those things and having the right mindset.

“Our own personal growth, our own personal experience, shouldn’t be at the expense of settling for a life that we won’t want to live.”

– Peter Sage

Have a nice little look at yourself now and try figuring out if you’re where you want to be. Are you happy? Are you satisfied with what you do, with the people around you, with life in general?

Maybe yes, maybe no – maybe the answer is no to any of the questions. If that’s the case, then start asking yourself why. Why does that happen? Did you have any chance to make something nice happen in life, where you chose to go the other way around?

The comfort zone.

Go throw it out right now. There’s no such thing, and the sooner you figure that out, the better off you’ll be at two things. First, you’ll realize that you’re not where you want to be solely because of yourself. Secondly, you’ll get the kick in the butt needed in order to move forward and make those things happen.

 

This is the first day of your new life

Millions of books, articles, scientific research, presentations – all of those things are available and they all speak of the same thing in one way or another. Since we’re far too nice, we’ve created this solid check list to get you started in the right direction:

  1. Throw out the damn BS crap you tell yourself and get moving.

You’re welcome.

It’s not brain surgery, it’s just portrayed that way for useless reasons. Again, the sooner you figure these things out, the sooner you’re going to make happiness happen in life. And, considering the amount of time and effort spent on excuses and story-telling, you’ll free up so much time, you might even write that book.

“Freedom is the right to tell people what they do not want to hear.”

– George Orwell

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