Procrastination is a great hobby, so is philosophizing about all sorts of things in life. There’s a complete industry specialized in inviting people to spend far too much time on thinking about things really hard, all of which will need to more thinking, and then some more. Will this ever lead to anything of value? Asking questions is our way of trying to start figuring things out, but is it possible that we’re making our way right into a question-asking-and-never-answering-phase in life?
A multi-million dollar industry – that’s what the field of self-help theories has created in the past years. But other than helping people who write these things to earn money, what other form of help have they contributed with and to whom? Most of this material often invites to ask the right questions – you know, along with making a list or plan or scheme or whatever. This is perfect for some people, those who are already doing something familiar and are quite into this whole measuring goals thing.
However, for others, this kind of invitation to ask questions and to think about why this and that has happened to you, is plain dumb. It’s only reason for existing (and selling well) is because of the comforting factor. If a book treats you like a child, presents you with excuses so as to why you haven’t yet lifted your butt up and started doing something – that is bullshit and as far away from helping anyone as one can get.
But hey, let’s not ruin the moment, right?
We’ve all got a pretty limited amount of time here on this planet, and this time could either be invested in great things or in bullshit. Right now, this may sound offensive and affect some people negatively but only because it is true and because deep down, they too know that they keep fucking things up by ignoring themselves.
Walking around like a mad man, using material available to confirm a current state of mind, reject the models as too unreasonable/difficult/useless, keeping it up with asking questions making zero sense to anyone and insisting on nothing great in life ever happening to them ….. Eh, that is pretty dumb.
Life isn’t that hard, really. Either you go for what you really want very much, trying it out, giving it your all etc., or you don’t. The latter choice implies going against your own will for which you’ll have to find great excuses and keep repeating them in absurdum. For that, there are a lot of dumbass, useless questions to help you find those BS answers and keep you away from pursuing your real goals and dreams.
Devastated people who failed with something are encouraged to go get yet another book, watch yet another inspiring video and start with the next 30-day challenge to become fantastic. But as anyone ever having met a person using those methods of avoidance, it’s only tragic. On the verge of becoming pathetic, on the verge of considering to sue the authors and producers making this crap and helping people stop themselves.
Asking questions is great, human beings do that and this is a big reason for why we’ve evolved, why our species has made amazing progress and created fantastic things. These things have been preceded by finding and defining the right questions, which is basically the hardest thing in any process. When you’ve defined your questions, taking the necessary steps to reach your goals becomes such an easy thing to do, because you know what you want from life, work or whatever has been occupying your mind.
What doesn’t do that is enforcing a dumbass model on yourself, desperately trying to pursue a 30-day challenge in anything and making it your main focus, your main purpose in life. Suddenly, the dreams and goals you had transformed into following a schedule in order to become “successful”. A great question to ask here is why that happens, and the answer is because what preceded those steps taken was the wrong question.
A “30 day challenge for your glutes” will not make you a better chef, nor will following “the ten most successful ways of becoming efficient” help you with becoming a movie star. The waist-trainer will not give you any confidence and reading about how to increase your IQ levels will not lead to your manager giving you a promotion. This. Is. All. Bullshit.
Procrastination is a healthy way of spending a very small amount of your time. The industry available to make sure to prolong that phase as much as possible have figured out their question and built successful businesses upon it. While asking questions isn’t wrong per se, asking the right ones will only spin you into a loop of crap, making it harder to reach any goals. Now, being honest and figuring out the right questions to ask yourself is another game – the successful one. The less fun part about it is that it requires actual action to be takes, which is, you know, implying butts to be moved away from the imaginary safe spots.
Finding the right questions will make your answer, you know that thing which you really want to do, to be possible. Think about it – is it better for you to be stuck in a quasi-philosophizing BS conversation with yourself, or starting to kick butts and life your life the way you want it to be? Now, that’s a great question.